Tools to Thrive

Healthy relationships are safe, respectful and kind.

In a healthy relationship, individuals can trust and rely on each other for support, warmth and encouragement. Each person’s feelings and boundaries are valued and respected. Disagreements are bound to happen, but they are resolved fairly and peacefully. Two-way communication exists. Each person feels heard and cared for. At home, with our children, in our communities, at work, around elders, or at school, we can all work to build healthy relationships with these tools to thrive.

Help Your Baby Learn and Grow at Every Stage, 0-5!

Children thrive when parents understand child development, provide affection, respectful communication and listening, consistent rules and expectations, and safe opportunities that promote independence. Successful parenting fosters psychological adjustment, helps children succeed in school, encourages curiosity about the world, and motivates children to achieve.

Download this checklist of important developmental milestones from birth through age five, and learn how you can help your child learn and grow at every stage.

Visit a local First 5 Family Resource Center for fun, connection, and learning.

The more healthy relationships a child has, the more likely he will be to recover from trauma and thrive. Relationships are the agents of change and the most powerful therapy is human love.

– Bruce Perry, MD, Ph.D, Child Trauma Academy

Watch this two-part video series on the Power of Relationships in Early Childhood Development.

Help your child build strong relationships with the people in his/her life.

Address Challenging Behaviors

Fun Online Activities for You and Your Child from PBS Kids

Learn about Healthy Dating and Intimate Relationships


Healthy relationships are safe, kind & respectful – based on open communication and healthy boundaries. Visit to learn more and to get help. Some of our favorite resources are listed below.


What are the characteristics of a healthy relationship?

Do abusive partners change?

Take this quiz to find out if you’re in a healthy relationship.

Is this abuse?

Is this a red flag?

Sex and Healthy Relationships

Sexually Transmitted Diseases and HIV Testing

Children and Domestic Violence Fact Sheets

Helpful Tips about Raising Grade-Schoolers and Teens

From helping your child build positive self esteem and navigate friendships to understanding gender identity and your child’s unique temperament, the American Academy of Pediatrics’ Healthy Children website has importance guidance. Some of our favorites are listed below.

8 Keys to Thriving Youth

Kids need 9 meaningful (safe) touches each day to feel connected to a parent.

Resources for Grade-Schoolers

What’s the best way to discipline my child?

Gender Diverse and Transgender children

Stages of Adolescence

Substance Use

Resources for Raising Teenagers

5 Signs of a Healthy Teen Relationship

Social Networking Safety

Texting and Sexting

Supporting LGBTQ Children and Youth

The LGBTQ Youth Space provides resources for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning and ally youth and young adults ages 13-25, living in Santa Clara County.

The LGBTQ Youth Space

Help for Children with Special Needs

Empowering Parents of Children with Special Needs – Parents Helping Parents

Special Needs E-Learning Library

Building Safe, Informed and Resilient Schools and Communities

Santa Clara County’s Children’s Agenda

Bring Project Cornerstone to Your School

The Things We Carry – Stress Health PSA

The Resilience Movie

Defending Childhood Initiative

Building a Future for Children Exposed to Toxic Stress

Support from a child’s family, friends, and community is key to helping a child recover and thrive after experiencing a traumatic event.

Santa Clara County Resources

Having our basic needs met — food, health, clothing, housing, education, employment – is the basis for all healthy relationships. This comprehensive list of services from legal aid to housing support can help point you in the right direction.

Santa Clara Resource Guide

Santa Clara County 211